I was watching one of my favorite shows last night The First 48 on A&E (no Presidential Debate for this girl--just couldn't do it). On one of the episodes this 16 year old boy shot and killed a 23 year old boy. Now the police figured out who the suspect was and were trying to track him down. They went to his mothers home and she knew where he was but wasn't telling police. The Detective told her that they would come back to her home every hour all through the day and night until she gave him up. The mother was non-compliant.
The police followed through with their plan and showed up at her home at all hours of the day and night. Finally on the 2ND night she had had enough and gave him up.
Now my question to you is this: If your child had done something wrong--even if he/she were only 16 would you give them up to police or would you hide them out for as long as possible?
I love these real police shows and I watch them faithfully. I am just really curious as to what people would do if it were their own child so comment away and at the end of the day I will reveal, in the comment section, what I would do!
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Sorry, I wouldn't help my children hide from the law.
I would make my child turn himself in if they did something wrong. I wouldn't give him up. I'd make him face up to what he'd done. If he refused then I would definitely tell the police where he was.
I've sort of been in this spot before with my brother. I told him I was taking him to turn himself in. He left before I got there. I didn't know where he was so I couldn't turn him in. But he was picked up less than 24 hours later because he was riding in a car that made an illegal turn at 2 in the morning.
Ha, this just came up at work yesterday. A young man came in for an appointment, and admitted to using marijuana about a week ago. Pot stays in your system for about 30 days, depending on metabolism.
Anyway, mom said that she had been giving him stuff to help flush out his system so he would be clean for his drug test!!
Some parents just don't know how to not enable, or they just can't believe that their kids are "the bad kid." Working with kids with parents like that are some of the most difficult clients, because they have no incentive to change.
oh the stories I could tell about "mama's got her baby boy's back"...especially Mormon Mommy's who seem to think if they can just keep it all "off the record" they'll succeed in getting those precious boys off to that mission yet! My kids know if we ever get the "Hello Dad, I'm in Jail" ( anybody singing yet?) phone call, they should fully expect to be told "Hope you sleep well." I definitely do not subscribe to the theory that my kids need to know I've got their back no matter what...that just doesn't work for me.
You do something wrong, you reap the consequences. I am NOT going to be an enabler...I've seen way too much of that around me and it doesn't help the children at all.
Although it would be hard, & I am sure I'd be in pure denial like most parents, I still would give my child up, I think it's better for them to learn their lesson & take the consequences ...EVEN though I am sure it would be very hard for me. I don't even wanna think about my sweet baby boy doing anything BAD! Even though he is pretty much our little rebel
Their choice, their consequences! They will not be hanging on to (or hiding behind) this mama's apron strings!
Thanks Jillene for the TV land report!
I'd turn him in and make him face the consequences. At least that's what I think I'd do, who knows what would happen if I was really in this situation, maybe I'd drive the whole family down to Mexico to start our new lives.
Turn that kid in. Consequences my friend. I'm a big fan.
Also, Jaren wouldn't tolerate it. I can't say the same if it here his daughter. lol. I already can almost basically get whatever I want I don't know what's going to happen when he has a little girl calling him daddy with big sad eyes. I'd treat both kids the same, though. I'm going to be a bit more tough on my kids I think, than my husband.
I'm a big believer in accountability. It's something that seems to be lacking all over the world. So, however difficult it would be and how terrible it would make me feel, I would turn my child in. Better for them to face the music than to run.
Darling blog - darling family! I'd turn them in...but I'm not a mother. BTW thanks for entering my giveaway!
I wouldn't hide them that's for sure. I'd turn them in if I couldn't get them to do it for themselves. They'd be better in the long run for being held accountable.
In reality, you never know WHAT you'd do in a situation like that. That's one thing I've learned over the years. I'd be so torn up inside, heart-broken and just destroyed that my husband would probably have to make all of the rational decisions at that point. And i know he'd turn him in because it's the right thing to do.
honestly, if it was up to me, i hope i'd make the right choice, but it would be VERY hard.
things like that are never black and white.
I must agree, it would be so heartbreaking, but I would turn him in. Probably one of the worst things you'd ever have to do....
p.s. did you see I am back as your stalker!! I was just switching it over to my new blog name!! glad you missed me.
I hope I NEVER have to deal with that but I'd have to turn them in. Sad.
Well. I want to say that that I would turn in my child if they were wrong. But I haven't been in those shoes. I hope that I would have the strength to do so though. To do the right thing no matter what. Ugh, it would be so hard....
TURN THEM IN, TURN THEM IN, TURN THEM IN....
This coming from the mom, whose monster teenager shoplifted, got caught and the consequences were "community service work". WHAT THE??? I begged them to have her scrub toilets with her tongue but OHHHH NOOOO, that's too harsh!! WHATEVER!!!
TURN THEM IN, TURN THEM IN, TURN THEM IN....
This coming from the mom, whose monster teenager shoplifted, got caught and the consequences were "community service work". WHAT THE??? I begged them to have her scrub toilets with her tongue but OHHHH NOOOO, that's too harsh!! WHATEVER!!!
Rach-
I was HAPPY to enter your awesome giveaway!! Thanks for the opportunity!!
Wendy-
I AM SO GLAD YOU ARE BACK!!
I had to do 2 seperate comments so that I ended up on an even #--I know--I'm crazy weird!!
First--I appreciate all of your comments and your honesty.
Second--I personally would turn them in. I am the hard core (mean)one in my marriage but I also think that my hubby would support it (right Matt?!). It would be THE HARDEST thing I would EVER have to do but--you do the crime, you do the time!! No hiding out at mom's house--or anywhere else for that matter!!
Here's to hoping that none of our children grow up to do anything that would get them arrested!!
Jillene- I agree, it would be turning them in for me as well. I have a real issue with enabling, and I am not sure where kids are going to learn to take responsibility for their stuff if they don't learn it at home.
Wow. Very thought provoking.... nice job
It's true, until it happens, you really DON'T know what you would do...but I'd like to think I'd have them turn themself in. Especially if someone else was involved. We're not even talking about doing something that just hurt themselves...this involved the death of another human being...they have moms too...tough call
I am with you jillene, I love watching these shows. I do know that I would have to be there to turn my child in, how else will he learn what is right and wrong if I don't lead by example
Ramona-
I am NOT a fan of enabling either--it DRIVES ME CRAZY!!
Wendyburd-
So right. You would hope you could do the right thing when it comes to your child--hard decision!!
Angela-
Yet another thing we have in common!!
I would beat him or her first. Then turn them in. After I got my hands on them they would be happy to go with the cops. :)
Really though, I would totally turn them in. My punishment would be just as bad as being arrested. (Confined to their room, no t.v., video games, radio. I'd even take their bed and make them sleep on the floor. etc.) Only in jail I wouldn't have to deal with the complaining. haha.
That is AWESOME Michelle!! We think so much alike!!
initially if they were hiding it was because they were afraid, but we would talk and work things out and I know they would be able to turn themselves into the police.
So, no I wouldn't turn them in and no, i couldn't harbor them either. But, I know if something like this happened we could face this trial as a family united.
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